Well, looking back it seems that I broke my resolution to blog at least once a week.
Life got in the way I suppose.
I know you all love when my posts are a HodgePodge of various rantings and thoughts by me and this will be no exception as a lot has happened since I last posted.
Grab a coffee sit back and enjoy!
I wonder where to begin.. Maybe the thing most on my mind these days.
Cancer.. heck yes I said it out loud.
You aren't supposed to talk about it, it makes people uncomfortable. Guess what.. its out there, consuming lives and affecting mine in many ways.
It strikes me as odd how Doctors can be so lacksidaisy on the subject of treatment and getting to the core of it.
There has been cancer running rampant through my life in the last 8 months. Every time I turn around, there it is again. Why is there no cure? oh, yes there actually is a cure BUT.. it is not profitable so why would they ever want to heal people? I mean the chemotherapy and hormone and radiation treatments is a billion dollar industry so why would they want to produce pills that cost mere pennies to make? Oh, that's right to save lives??!! Imagine that.. not letting people die and suffer and undergo surgeries and worry.
I hope to see this sometime before I die.. them bring this to a realisation instead of just a cure sitting in a lab unused.
Next.. Children these days.
Ok, I totally get that not all children are like mine and fear for their lives to talk back to me and when they do its because they totally believe in the point they are trying to make so they get brave but never EVER would you find my children being disrespectful to another adult.
It baffles me how many children out there talk to grown ups like they do.
I had a interesting conversation with one of my friends on this subject and then another friend and we are all in agreeance on this point.
How a child interacts with an adult whether it be a family member or a friend of the family is a direct reflection of how those adults are spoken about or respected by their own parents.
If you have a friend that you constantly put down or make snarky comments about or talk about behind their backs and talk shit about, the child will see that and assume that this is truly how you feel about that person and in turn show them the same disrespect, but the difference is... the child doesn't know enough to put on the "fake face" while interacting with that adult. All they know is "my mom/dad talks bad about them in front of me or within earshot so they must not deserve respect from me either"
So pay attention, if a child sasses you or says things that are hurtful and disrespectful to you on a regular basis and nothing gets said by the parent about it, its likely because that parent doesn't want their child to come back with "well you talk bad about them all the time" in front of you and their secret be out. I actually found out a few of my "friends" obviously have a lot to say by the way their children treat me and I did absolutely nothing to the children to warrant that attitude.
I think that as a society we have allowed children to become rude, spiteful, entitled individuals that when they step out into the real world and out from mommy and daddy's protection.. they re gonna get their asses kicked by someone who wont tolerate it.
Social media.. I allowed my child finally to have a facebook to communicate with her friends.. that's it. No instagram ( yet I am still thinking about that one) no twitter, no kik messenger or any of the other apps on the list of top 5 apps your child should not have ( can we say paedophile playground??) no snapchat and definitely no cell phone. What 10 year old needs any of that? Yet.. i open up these instagram and see pictures from little girls and think.. where are your parents while you take these pictures and post them on the Internet? so I don't mind at all when my child comes in, drops her bag at the door and turns right around and goes to the park to play with her friends and I have to drag her back in to eat and then shes back out till dusk. Better that than wasting her life away on the worldwide web of lies and trouble.
Which brings me to my next rant..
The other day my daughter came downstairs wearing my other daughters pants and shirt, my shoes and had my headband on her head and was wearing my new lipstick.. I said go take off everything that doesn't belong to you and put on your own things.
She replied that she wanted to be like me and selaira and look like us and dress like us and do what we did..
I realised this was my chance to have a good talk with her about individuality.
I sat her down ( after she changed back into her own things) and explained to her that God made us all different for a reason. He made us to look the way we did for a reason, yes sometimes we colour our hair and change how we dress but the reason has to be that you like it not so you can be like someone else. If you take up a hobby do it because you enjoy it and are interested not because your friend does it and you think you can do it better. If you like your hair short then cut it who cares if your friends have long hair.. YOU are not them, they are not you. Do not waste your life trying to be a copy of someone else. First of all your friends will get seriously annoyed by it and you'll find they don't want to be around you if you run around after them doing everything they do and copying how they look and dress and do their hair and you'll end up lonely and lost in who you are. They will in fact get mad and start to hate you for it and no longer share any information with you.
Second, you will never know who YOU are if you don't allow yourself to find out. You cannot go through life being a mix of other people, be you. ONLY you. She seemed to understand for the most part and asked questions like well what if Alyssa gets a shirt and I like it. I said..Ok, like it.. it doesn't mean you need to run out and get it.. I like plenty of things and lots of stuff my friends do, it doesn't mean I have to do it or buy it. I like Reading what Sheila writes, doesn't mean I'm going to become a writer. I like that Shannon paints her face for events on singsnap, it doesn't mean I'm going to start doing it. I like how kelly has a million animals running around her house, doesn't mean were going to move to a farm and do that too.. you see being different and having different interests makes friendships better, you can learn from them what they like and they can learn from you what you like, but you don't have to be carbon copies of each other or you might as well just be friends with yourself and they will feel that way too.. no one wants to be around someone that is JUST like them..
I gave up the guitar sometime back because well.. I just couldn't get it but I have a new plan on the horizon.. I'm going to be taking piano lessons. I figure I have two hands and long fingers.. I got this! So.. we'll see how that goes, I am already one step ahead of the game as I have a keyboard already that has been sitting collecting dust for years so I may as well put it to work. This may help me get back into writing music again if I can plink out a melody on the keys :)
Well I intended to write longer but I just as I have been doing a lot lately completely lost my train of thought and now have lost interest in thinking anymore, BUT... i do need to do this more often, maybe then my thoughts wont be quite so scattered and so much to write about that I cannot put it all into text..
until next time.. drink coffee and prosper!
